Learning From Conflict
Every time we have a conflict in life, it’s actually an opportunity to learn. To look at the opposite side we might never think of considering, and open our minds to a different perspective. When we find we are judging something, that’s the time to investigate and find out why. What is the point of view I’m not seeing? It doesn’t mean it’s right or wrong, just something to learn about. If we only stick with our own opinions, we are missing an opportunity to learn about other people and their view of life that we may never have seen or experienced. Those people we may be judging are our teachers if we can open our minds and hearts.
One interesting way to approach a conflict situation is to ask the other person, “Can you please help me understand your point of view?” We can treat all people with respect, knowing that as humans we all have our own feelings, thought systems, and life situations that others may not completely understand. The more we can speak with loving kindness, give others the benefit of the doubt, and expect good intentions from them, the more they will rise to the occasion. The more our hearts can meet and work together to take care of the details.
Here are some affirmations that may be helpful reminders:
I bring compassion into my heart for myself and others. We are all doing the best we know how at any given moment.
I set my intention to speak and act with loving kindness.
I let go of past resentment and open my mind to learning and growing from this situation.