Keeping the Peace
“If we could read the secret history of our enemies we shall find in each man’s sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility.” —Henry W. Longfellow
When we get upset at others, there’s often ego and attachment involved. Sometimes we get triggered and ego takes over—at this point, we can become overly attached to our opinions and need to be right.
There’s a balance between standing up with wisdom for what we want in our life and the ego’s anger and hostility toward those who challenge our views or way of doing things.
It all involves backing off and looking at situations from a more open-hearted perspective. We all have different personality types, preferences, opinions, and have grown up with different life experiences. So why assume we’d all have the same way of doing things? Of course we won’t.
When we can think of others as unique and human, and respect their right to have their own truth, it helps bring more kindness and understanding to interactions.
However, we also need to balance compassion with setting our own boundaries. Once we’re very clear about what our own truth is in a situation, we can articulate it in a kind and non-blaming way. It’s not always that simple—often we need to get away from situations, handle our feelings, and meditate on things to gain this clarity. Then we can determine how best to articulate our boundaries in a peaceful manner, while still respecting others’ rights to their own truth and feelings.
Sometimes this involves distancing ourselves or agreeing to disagree. It’s not always easy, but letting the heart lead the way with kindness and respect makes all things possible and keeps us moving toward peace.
Here are affirmations that may be helpful reminders:
Today I let my heart lead the way and speak my truth with kindness and respect.
I seek to practice peace with all the unique people in my life, including those with different views.
Today I bring the light of healing to any dark corners of my life, sending compassion and loving kindness to all.